Self-Doubt is Just the Worst!

Self-Doubt is a cancer that feeds on your every insecurity.

Even when things are going well in your life, self-doubt creeps up your spine through your organs, into your neck and right into your brain.

It spreads and spreads— and before you know it, you talk yourself out of everything you wish to accomplish.

But, why???

Why does this happen?

This is my take:

I think for many of us it’s natural to worry and to second guess oneself. It’s inherently part of our human psyche to doubt ourselves.

I’m not good enough— sound familiar?

How about— no one wants to bother with me.

And this— I’m not worthy.

Well that right there folks is the devil working on your mind.

Prodding his pitchfork into your sides and saying, “They are going to laugh at you! Who do you think you are? You are nobody!”

Well, I’m gonna tell y’all something.

You are worthy.

You are someone.

Forget what you think people may or may not think of you.

Focus on your goals.

Create tangible, smart, concrete plans and start working it out.

Little by little.

One baby step at a time.

And you will begin to see significant changes in your life.

Stop doubting your dreams.

Dreams are the stuff that design your future.

Whether you want to write books, sell art, play guitar in a band, have the lead in a stage production, open a boutique or a coffee shop, restaurateur, spin instructor, cosmetologist, nurse— these are completely normal and accomplishable goals.

I cannot emphasize the importance of research.


Educate and empower yourself.

Go to your web browser and type in the words driving or inhibiting your dreams.

Read articles.

Look up college prerequisites.

Look at reviews.

View tutorials on YouTube.

Ask for help— Professional, personal or spiritual. People are out there and want to help you believe in yourself.

Sign up for “feel good” seminars and small business collaborations.

Talk to people.

Put yourself out there.

Do not allow self-doubt to ruin your life plans.

Change is necessary to move on from your fears and get closer to YOU.


Like the old Nike campaign, “Just Do It!”

Stop making excuses about why you can’t.


-Alison Paul Klakowicz, BA, MS

Author of Mommy’s Big, Red Monster Truck

Alison Paul Klakowicz is a North Carolina native, children’s book author, blogger, podcaster and creative writer. She is a military spouse who resides in Fayetteville, NC with her husband, Adam, and son, Mak.

What is Love?

Over my four decades of life, I have sought love.

When I was young I sought romantic love. Plucking flower petals and saying the words with each petal tossed, “He loves. He loves me not.”

At times, I accepted dysfunctional love which was not love at all. Just a filler that created an empty heart.

As I’ve grown older (not old, just a bit more experienced and wise), I have become more aware of love.

Real love.

True love.

This is what I believe love to be.

Love is a home.

Love is joy.

Love is empathy.

Love is seeing the world through someone else’s eyes.

Love is a small gesture.

Love is patience.

Love is kindness.

Love is acceptance.

Love is turning off the negative noise in your mind, and thanking the world, the universe, God for your blessings in life.

Love is shutting up a mouth that wants to spew meaningless and hateful speech.

Love is placing your wants beneath the needs of others.

Love is a helping hand.

Love is sucking it up and forgiving those who hurt you.

Love is forgiving yourself for the hurt you caused others.

Love is waking in the morning with a grateful spirit.

Love is fun.

Love is sad.

Love is simple.

Love is easy.

Love is taking time for yourself.

Love is holding a screaming child and providing them comfort.

Love is a child’s laugh.

Love is hot coffee on a cold morning.

Love is restful.

Love is peaceful.

Love is genuine.

Love is a smile.

Love is a twinkle in an old man’s eyes.

Love is a warm hug.

Love is reading a beautiful story.

Love is gazing happily at the birds in the trees.

Love is lovely.

I send you each love, and confidence that someone on this Earth cares for you deeply; prays for you and will be there to hold you up when you least expect it.

Practice love and love will find you.

Happy Valentines week!


Alison Paul Klakowicz

This Is Me.

Plain and simple.

Wrinkles and freckles. Big, dark spots on my face, arms and neck.

A chipped front tooth.

Fat rolls and gray hairs.

And I am okay with it all. It’s just who I am. A part of me.

I’ve earned each of these imperfections. Like tiny rewards for the past 43 years on this Earth.

Do I use anti-aging products and face masks? Dye those pesky gray hairs? Buy new clothes and think of the old skinnier me?

Yes. Vanity hasn’t entirely escaped me.

But, I’m not worried about it. And, I’m not going to go broke trying to reverse time.

I’ve let go of all that fuss.

I’m happy.

Truly happy.

I’m inspired.

I’m motivated.

I’m loved.

I love.

What could be better?

Stop putting yourself down. Focus on the here and now. What is important.



Do good things.

Do fun things.

Be kind.

Slow down.

Look in the mirror and say, “This is me.”

And be happy with who you see.

-Alison Paul Klakowicz, BA, MS